Ton égo a tout le temps l’impression d’avoir besoin de contrôler, car il se sent toujours en Insécurité.
Pour Ton égo, avoir cette impression de contrôle devient alors essentiel (comme le décrit la Psychologie moderne) pour assurer un sentiment de Sécurité relative et éviter le surmenage et le stress.
Having a high sense of control is related to proactive behavior and positive psychological outcomes. Control is linked to an ability to take preventative action and to feel healthy (Mirowsky & Ross, 1991). An impairment of control is associated with depression, stress, and anxiety-related disorders (Abramson et al., 1989; Chorpita & Barlow, 1998; Mirowsky & Ross, 1999; Shapiro, Schwartz, & Astin, 1996). Indeed, cognitive theorists and clinicians associate mental well-being with feeling in control of one’s internal psychological environment, specifically cognitions, beliefs, thoughts, and emotions (Beck, 2002).
The concept of perceived control is a cognitive attribute that is discussed within the social and behavioral sciences in a variety of forms, such as personal control, locus of control orientation, instrumentalism, self-efficacy, mastery, self-directedness, personal autonomy, helplessness, and sense of control (Ross & Sastry, 1999). These terms are often used interchangeably despite having distinct features (Skinner, 1996). We discuss control as a construct generally reflecting whether life outcomes are subjectively ascribed to a person versus something external to a person. On one end of a continuum, a sense of personal control is the learned, generalized belief that one can and does master, control, and shape one’s own life. At the opposite end of the continuum is perceived powerlessness, the belief that one’s life is shaped by external forces, such as luck, chance, fate, or powerful others (Mirowsky & Ross, 1991).
More frequent experience of Flow state is positively correlated with Autonomy and Internal Locus of Control — Source
Ne pas avoir d’impression de contrôle, et donc sentir que tu n’as aucun contrôle ni aucune influence sur ta propre situation s’appelle l’Impuissance apprise.
Tu peux Lâcher-prise pour quitter le besoin de contrôle et te sentir en contrôle dans le chaos.
Mais même faire cela, depuis Ton égo, ce n’est qu’une occupation:
Essayer d’affronter tes peurs, ou même de lâcher prise, c’est une occupation. C’est pour garder le moi occupé. Tout ce qui confirme une illusion de contrôle permet de garder le moi occupé. — Benoît Strauss
Source: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2834184/ http://changingminds.org/explanations/needs/control.htm Histoire pour les enfants qui raconte le locus de contrôle